The CHRISTIAN WOMAN.
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1Peter3:3-4.
“Our society places a high value on the physical beauty of women, but it does not understand all of the elements that make a woman truly beautiful. If a woman possesses only the physical aspect of beauty without the inner and godly qualities, she is a hollow and an empty shell.” (Outer Beauty Deception).
Attractiveness does not necessarily mean beautifulness, some women may seem attractive at first sight because they lack godliness in them the beauty fades with time and you start wondering is this the women I met a month ago?, the reason is that artificial beauty is temporary and can never be compared to what God has created from the inner person. If you want to see the beauty of the woman please put them on a poor diet for some time for you would see whether they are naturally beautiful or it was forged beauty. (Forged Beauty of a woman).
Our society places a high emphasis on the physical aspect of beauty and neglects the other elements that really make a woman totally beautiful. A beautiful woman is not just physically appealing; she is appealing in many different areas. Because our society so largely emphasizes the physical nature of beauty.
Anyway I greet you all the Christian Brethren who are calling on the name of Jesus Christ out of pure heart, Grace be multiplied to you and mercies of God abound more as we continue this journey of salvation, knowing that by death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ we have obtained His Righteousness through Salvation and of faith by the Grace of God the Father.
I received a request from one of the Sisters in Christ Jesus and of course her question was quite direct, and this was the request: what are the qualities of a good Christian Woman? So I was suffered within Me to give a general view to all the women Christian community other than answering her alone. And by the Grace of God, I am pleased in the Lord Jesus Christ to share the word of God and of truth that can address the Christian women who have obtained righteousness of God through Christ Jesus by Grace and by Faith. We all know in any society we have worldly women and godly women, and between them, there are many distinctions and some of the similarities. For that matter we cannot speak of a good Christian woman minus also talking about the worldly woman who seem to be Christian but her character does not act godly because of the much worldliness in her. In this case I will point out, characteristics of a good Christian woman, how she should behave in the community, fruits when she gets married and her moral behavior and their beauty.
The modern Christianity today has taught women how to compete with Men and be at the same level in the name of expressing human rights, and many have been misled. Many Christian women today have become worse and worse even after getting born again, some of their friends reach an extent, is this the woman I used to know years back? What happened, they have become worldlier than the worldly women who have never received salvation and this has hindered the great Salvation of our Sovereign Lord Jesus Christ to those who would wish to get into the Great Salvation of Our Saviour Jesus.
Godly morals are never birthed out of these women even after conversion, you only hear them say we are in the Grace and all our sins were nailed on the cross 2000 years ago, so we are supposed to behave the way we want. In a world like this, it’s hard to get morals be put into women especially with many surrounding churches that have perverted Grace, and have obtained presumptuous grace that has led many astray to believe they are now equal to Men, many church pastors have misinterpreted the scriptures in the letters of Paul addressing the difference of women in the church and at Home. Things to do with Job, and other activities have mislead many women to equal to men and have not understood their role as women and how they are supposed to behave in the society morally, physically, Spiritually and so forth.
Here Peter writes boldly;
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. Ipeter3:1-6.
Peter’s letter was addressing women who are wives in other words who are already married because you cannot be a wife unless you are married. However, his epistle is also covering and counseling all Christian women in general those who are married and those who are not yet in marriage, Peter’s counsel seems to be taken optional by Most the Christian women today, women have ignored the counsel of God’s word Peter was giving to the wives, unmarried women, girls etc. in the Peter’s epistle you would point characteristics of a Christian women and how they should behave in society, in their households even at work places and so forth. His counsel tackles behavior, morals, and fruitfulness of godliness in their daily lives. You must remember that God’s suggestions are commands, the counsel becomes a command so you cannot jump it and leave it.
There are some Christian woman characteristics that we can extract from the epistle of Peter in order to address how a good Christian woman should live and Be in the society
- Adornment and dressing
- Obedience and Love
- Morality and behavior.
The above characteristics that we can extract from the epistle of peter: 1st peter3:1-6.
Beauty: Christian women are supposed to focus more on the inner beauty like how sarah and all the other ancient Christian women who served God lived, the beauty does not come from the outside, the beauty that comes from outside is artificial and not godly, it creates a worldly character and therefore forbidden, naturally God wants women work their beauty from the inside, self-inner-person, what’s where the adornment is, because God created women as a representation to be the body of Christ” the Church” most of their roles are Spiritual representation of what God has created for the body Christ, like beauty. Spiritually a woman represents a Church and they are to play many roles, the church adornment should be Spiritual, and anything done in Faith is a deed and counted as righteousness.
During peters’ time women were adorning themselves to look better in the eyes of their husbands, men for enticement and this kind of enticement was not godly but ungodly it was not leading husbands of these women to Christ, due to what could be talked about in the society. The beauty entails the purity of the heart of woman, submission, obedience, Love, moral behavior. Many women were adorning themselves with styles of hair and with many pearls, rings and others things as you know them in the name of seeking recognition, attraction or to be hit on, and their behavior was not good towards their husbands to those who had husbands, many were behaving the way they wanted with no manners at all, because Peter mentions of reverence and purity in His letter, this means Christian women by that time were not concentrating on purity to obtain righteousness of God, but were focusing more on the outside beauty.
Christian women should focus on the beauty of the inside person which includes submission, purity, love, obedience and other fruits of godliness. Christ adornment is in the Spiritual person, you may wear your make up and men say wow this is good and cute as compliments but in God’s sight you are disgusting and not right. The artificial beauty was not created by God, God created a woman to be beautiful in all ways the woman has decided to change what God has created for her purpose. Someone will say shall we not adorn ourselves and look nice because of God? Or is it a sin to makeup, are we not in the Grace? The foolish of course will have such excuses but to a godly mindset and heavenly mind would amend their ways and come to God in fear and godliness to rest in Christ.
We can break beauty into two part folds. 1. Outer beauty 2. Inner Beauty.
A truly beautiful woman is physically appealing. Not all women are gifted with perfection of physical features, but fortunately, this is not the only prerequisite for beauty. Women tend to take a critical look at their individual features and flaws and feel this is what makes them attractive or not, whereas a man tends to look at the overall impression a woman creates. What a woman does with what she has is very important in making herself attractive. Physical beauty is really within the reach of any woman.
The most influential factor in a woman’s physical beauty is her health. When a woman is healthy, she has an attractive glow about her. Good health adds more color to the face and skin and helps produce more energy. A balanced, nutritious diet and exercise plan will help a woman to have this healthy glow. It will also help to keep excess weight off and produce a more attractive physique. When a woman is striving to follow the health laws she looks and feels more beautiful.
Another key factor of womanly beauty is looking feminine. A woman should look like a woman, not a man. A woman can achieve this through her dress and hairstyle.
The Bible says women’s hair should be longer than men’s. This doesn’t mean she has to wear it down to her ankles, but it should be long enough to differentiate her from a man. Most women enjoy choosing different hair styles and fixing their hair. A woman’s hairstyle and length can contribute to her attractiveness.
A physically attractive woman is also one who dresses modestly. Our society teaches women to flaunt their physical attributes by displaying scantily clad women on billboards, magazines and most other media outlets. Many women feel they must also dress this way to be considered attractive. This is not true. A fully clothed woman dressed in a modest, feminine way is very attractive. She is not only attractive, she gains honor and respect from those who see her. A woman’s body is designed to be attractive and arousing to men, and when a woman is revealing too much of herself in public, she is stirring up the wrong kind of feelings and will attract the wrong kind of attention. A truly beautiful woman aims for respect in the way she dresses.
Physical beauty normally comes naturally from the inner person, and it is revealed outside, that beauty does not fade, artificial made beauty fades away and has serious negative effects both physically and spiritually. Physically it increases and attracts or opens the gateway of fadedness of the skin, cancer and other diseases. And spiritually it opens the gateway for demon entanglement, and this puts you in much covenant with the Spirit of seduction: Jezebel, the Spirit is more attractive and brought by seduction, arranging outer adornment which is artificial that God has not created. Some women would say shall keep looking bad because we are saved? Of course NOT, I am saying your natural beauty is enough, there some things you can practice that can bring out your outer beauty, of course you have to choose some normal lotions, for smearing yourself not for attractiveness to avoid just fade and pales on the face.
A beautiful woman is not only admired for her physical appearance; she is admired for her inner qualities as well. There are many inner qualities that make a woman beautiful, and to cover all of them would require a separate article. However, I want to focus on three important inner qualities a woman should possess to make herself truly beautiful.
A woman should be kind—she should be gracious. Proverbs 11:16 tells us that a gracious woman retains honor. When you think of the women that you hold in high regard, they usually are ladies who are kind, gentle, thoughtful, unselfish, etc. They are the women that we look up to and remember. In Proverbs 31:26, a virtuous woman is described as having the law of kindness on her tongue. Women who are gracious and kind are attractive.
A woman should also have good judgment. In Proverbs 11:22, a lovely woman who lacks discretion is compared to a ring of gold in a swine’s snout. If a woman is physically attractive, but lacks discretion, it takes away from her beauty and value. Good judgment is needed in many areas of life such as moral issues, money matters, choices, decisions, dealing with others, work, etc. A woman who possesses good judgment is of great value because she can be trusted to do the right thing.
A woman should continue to grow and better her inner self. Proverbs 31 describes a woman who is competent and capable of doing many different things. A woman who continues to grow while developing her talents and abilities is a woman of value. She is one who is able to contribute to others through these abilities, and she will be of use to her family, Church, community, etc. A woman who is developing her potential is an attractive woman.
Beautiful to God
A truly beautiful woman is not only attractive on the outside and inside, she is also attractive to God. How a woman looks to God is more important than any other quality she possesses because one day her outer beauty will fade and her inner beauty will cease, but the beauty that God sees in her will be important when she stands before Him. Being beautiful to God should be top priority on every woman’s list. The Scriptures give us some clues as to what God finds attractive in women.
God values a quiet spirit in a woman. As 1 Peter 3:3-4 tells us, “Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” Does this mean that a woman should never say anything—that she should always be quiet? No, this is saying that a woman should not have an argumentative, contentious spirit. She should not be someone who is quick to argue and demand her way. She should be peaceable to others and respectful to her husband. There are several scriptures in the book of Proverbs that talk about women who are angry and contentious, and how difficult it is to live with them.
There is a certain attitude among some women that has its roots in the feminist movement and is still prevalent among certain segments of society. This attitude is a deep anger toward men. These women want to prove that they are just as good as their male counterparts, and that they don’t need them. Contrast this attitude to the gentle and quiet spirit that God values in women. A truly beautiful woman is not in competition with men—she understands the value and strengths that they possess and appreciates them. Women and men both possess certain qualities that are needed by one another. When a woman has a gentle and quiet spirit, she is attractive to others and to God.
A truly beautiful woman is not in competition with men—she understands the value and strengths that they possess and appreciates them. Women and men both possess certain qualities that are needed by one another.
God values a woman who is submissive. “Submissive” is not a popular word in our society today. Many people think of being submissive as being weak. Yet, God has commanded women who are married to submit themselves to their husband’s authority. This does not mean that a woman should never have an opinion or say in what takes place in the family. A wise husband will consult his wife on all important issues. A woman who submits herself to her husband is a woman that understands and is yielding to the government that God has established in the home (Ephesians 5:22-32). It is not a sign of weakness when a woman submits to her husband, it is a sign of strength. It is a sign that she is in fact submitting herself to God and is obeying the commands that He has established. It is a sign of her faith in God. When a woman submits to her husband’s authority in marriage, she is beautiful to God.
God also values a woman who fears Him. When a woman is putting God first in her life and is striving to do what He has commanded, she is attractive to God. She should continue to deepen her relationship with Him and continue to grow spiritually. Proverbs 31:30 reads, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.”
Our society places a high value on the physical beauty of women, but it does not understand all of the elements that make a woman truly beautiful. If a woman possesses only the physical aspect of beauty without the inner and godly qualities, she is a hollow and empty shell.
It is within every woman’s reach to become the beautiful woman God intended her to be. She should be beautiful on the outside, beautiful on the inside and, most importantly, she should be beautiful to God.
Purity; a woman should not only focus on her beauty alone but importantly purity and this God counts more preferable, purity means freedom from immorality, especially of a sexual nature. And in many cases it means cleanness from the Spirit, heart, soul not referring to physical cleanness, but decency, morality, up righteousness, immaculateness, rectitudeness, innocence. God hates women who are loose, seductive, corrupt in mind, heart, soul and Spirit, immoral and the like. The Christian women should live in Purity and in quiet Spirit that can win heart of men to God not for world ecstasy. Purity is paramount in a Christian woman’s life, they are not supposed to become busy bodies, speaking nasty words, idle talk, corrupted words of seduction, but words seasoned with Grace to attract Men to God not themselves. However, the current generation has taught women to be immoral to demonstrate attractiveness which is not true and it’s totally wrong. Peter mentions of Purity in married to turn the Husbands to God rather than beauty of the outer face and self-adornment.
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 1peter3:1-2.
This tells us that Purity that when look at the Purity of this Christian Women, they will be able to believe that really God exists and is amidst them, but if they see no change they will likely to take you like any woman slut rather than reverence. Purity goes hand in hand with reverence in a woman who is godly and has learnt the godly character not because of force exerted on her but the willingness to become the “Church of God” and the beauty of God’s church.
Dressing and Adornment; The Christian woman should be virtuous free from sin corruption that make her perverted, loose and immoral. Her dressing should be seen in morality and works of the cross at work in her, the dressing should not be obscene, nakedness, revealing of body shape, private parts but dressed elegantly, simply not to attract but to bring out the beauty of God and the Glory of Christ, Men will naturally get attracted to you minus your intentions of seducing, women who dress and dress not exposing themselves are the beautiful women we Men are looking for, if your inner parts are exposed then why should I get attractive to marry you, they are outside and seen by everybody, they have faded, they have expired no longer fit for marriage for your Husband.
Christian women should dress elegantly to demonstrate the honor of God in them, this brings respect, the highly respected women by Men are those who take time to cover themselves and their body parts are hidden only to be revealed by their Husbands. I am not saying go and put on like grandmother but am saying dress in the way of glorifying God in your Body and in your Spirit. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1corrinthians6:19-20.
“The corrupted Body means a corrupted Spirit already” Good men are seeking appropriate women who value themselves. The way you dress will lead you to Men you desire not men God has prepared for your destiny and these are the effects of Marriage breakups, because He loved your body parts that were out, they have reached a time and have expired, he has to look for more just He got you. Christian women and girls please be careful in this and take it seriously lest you fall into the traps of Jezebel the wild queen, the seducer, the manipulator and the immoral woman and your end will be damnation.
Obedience and Love; Christian women are supposed to obedient in nature not argumentative, they are supposed have a quiet Spirit, not rebellious Spirit, their Spirit must be submissive, obedient and quiet filled with Love. And the scriptures are quite clear here, women are not meant equal themselves to men but they are to submit to them in obedience just like Sarah did as Peter writes in his epistle.
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. 1 peter3:4-6. Women who love their husbands will always submit themselves to them.
Women were naturally created to obey, to live in quiet Spirit and obedient Spirit with this kind of approach their husbands will be won over by the deed to accept Jesus Christ. Men naturally are reluctant about the church things, women were always seeking God, and their husbands were attracted to them by the moral conduct to believe God. Even in Jesus Christ time there were many followers who were women as disciples than men. Men will follow God if they see their women change and have impacted godly character in themselves, this will be a fruit of the Holy Spirit in this Christian woman. If the woman continues to look sexually aroused and seductive in her dealings in the society after being Born Again, then there is something wrong somewhere. Authority belongs to Man in the Home and therefore the women is meant to be under Authority of Men even when the women is wealthier than the Man, this is how a Christian woman should live. Paul reminds the women to be obedient at the church of Corinthians.
But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. 1Corrinthians11:3. In the scripture reminds the women that every head of the woman is Man, and of course the Head of Man is Christ and the Head of Christ is God. That’s how authority moves, getting wealth as a women does not increase your authority as woman over a Man, on the contrary Not, the Authority is from God, not from the earthy plus acquisitions. Authority is Spiritual and all true is humble, so Man ought to use authority in such a way that it respects a women in order to remain obedient. The scriptures continue to show how a woman should be obedient towards men and especially their husbands and that woman rocks, man naturally they don’t like competition, a woman who would want to compete with them in rebellion it would turn out to be bad, if it’s a relationship or marriage it would not last because of that argument between competing to be men of the household.
In marriage matters a counsel was given to the Christian woman, as it is written;
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians5; 22-24. The scripture says a woman should submit in everything, she should not accept some and then others she cannot. And this is where we have a problem, if the woman has married a drunkard man who has not yet received Salvation they tend to distance themselves from them and see them as outcasts and this is wrong, they tend to dis respect them just because their husbands have not yet changed, the Man should be the Head in all circumstances.
Holiness: holiness means perpetual righteousness which means righteousness does not end, this is righteousness plus righteousness plus righteousness, and this righteousness is needed in the Christian woman just like it is required by the scriptures, it’s not an optional. Keeping righteousness is not an option in God’s Kingdom rather a requirement in everything that we do, so Christian must keep righteousness despite the location, the man married to, and that’s why they need to be abit more patient in getting married because of righteousness issue. Representing a church as a role is not something easy, it requires high standard of Holiness and the righteousness done in Faith through Jesus Christ. Keep good morals and good behavior is an act of righteousness.
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit. 1thessalonians4: 3-5, 7-8.
Christian women ought to know that purity and Holiness are required of them and this is what will their beauty intact and pleasing to God. Heavenly can entered without education, degree or a diploma, but Heaven cannot be entered without Holiness and without holiness no one shall see the Lord. Christian women are to live as example of all women who live in society in godliness to bring the Glory of God, win respect and honor or reverence. Woman who is loose, pervert, exposes her body parts in the society is shameless and a disgrace to the society and to the parents. Every woman should know how to possess their own vessels in sanctification, which is honorable and holy.
Finally I would say it is within every woman’s reach to become the beautiful woman God intended her to be. She should be beautiful on the outside, beautiful on the inside and, most importantly, she should be beautiful to God.
To my Sisters and Mothers in Christ Jesus please read and read this articles for your edification, and amend, this has come to streamline and refrain evil which is amongst you. And this is for your own benefit, please honor and serve God in reverence which is acceptable to God. And also unto Men this requires you to take part and help your wives, your daughters and Sisters on how they can change character of worldliness and ecstasy to lead them for a Holy and better beauty of God who is in Christ our Lord and that is the will of God for the church, just as Christ Loves His Church, men you ought to love your women or wives in turn for submission and this is the will of God for You.
Grace be multiplied to those who are suffering in Christ Jesus and the eternal crown is awaiting you when we meet him and see him in the glorious Day, and my prayer is that we meet him altogether to those who believe in purity of the heart and of faith in Christ Jesus which gives the righteousness of God, to HIM be the Glory forever and ever, Him who is Wise alone, the King of Glory Jesus Christ the Saviour God.
I remain Asher Namanya your fellow soldier of Christ Jesus and the fellow laborer in the Word and the appointed Minister for the Mysteries in Christ for His Glorious Gospel of which had been hidden for our glory until Today.
God bless you all and I love you all.